He’s Actually Just That Into You


The best kiss is one that has been exchanged a thousand times between the eyes before it reaches the lips. Dating is electric and exciting and always such a delicate dance. You never want to make the wrong move, come across as too anxious (or, God forbid, desperate) or too indifferent or become too invested too fast. It’s guessing, it’s hoping and it’s wondering if and how much the other person likes you. Women can spend hours deciphering the different hidden messages a one-sentence text or an Instagram like has (extremely guilty of this) yet the truth is, there is not much science in figuring out if the man you’re interested in is actually just that into you. People, especially men, may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you. It’s simply a matter of paying attention to the little things…

So, if a guy likes you…

He will call you or contact you. No, your phone isn’t broken, nor is his. His emails or messages weren’t lost in cyber space – he simply hasn’t tried to contact you. And if for some reason he didn’t receive your email, your text, or airplane message in the sky, he will eventually try to contact you again. Men who like you will initiate communication with you. With all the various apps out there, these gentlemen have plenty of choices to select from. *

He will try to see you. If a guy is into you, he will make the effort to see you again. Regardless of busy schedules and plans, if he feels that getting to know you is a priority, he will make time for you. If women can work, send emails, text a man at the same time, and drive and apply makeup simultaneously, men can certainly move from their mental “work” box to the “woman I’m interested in” box once in a while.

He will touch you. And I don’t mean in the creepy hi-I-just-met-you-and-this-is-crazy-touch-me-again-and-I’ll-taze-you-maybe kind of way. Observe his body language. It speaks volumes. When a guy is interested, he will make subtle contact. For instance, he may lightly touch your arm or gently place his hand on your shoulder, behind your back or on your waist. High fives don’t count, by the way. If they did, I would be seriously reconsidering my career and perhaps moving to a convent.

He will make future plans with you. A man interested in you will want to secure seeing you again (this could be a first date and this could be a second date). It might be a “We should do this…” or “What are you doing this weekend? We should hang out…” Even if he doesn’t solidify plans right then, he will allude to future plans with you. To all the men reading this, you should actually follow through with this.

He will ask you out. It’s pretty simple and requires very little explanation. Men who like you will ask you out. While it’s true you may need to give him some indicators that you’re also interested, he will generally initiate plans with you.

Watch your six & stay purring,


*I dated a Naval Intelligence Officer at one time who seemed to resurface after each alleged secret mission every few weeks and communication was pretty up in the air, despite his assurances that he did like me. Needless to say it didn’t really go anywhere. On the whole, beware of men with jobs out in the field (AKA, don’t have their phones readily on hand) – they probably won’t be texting or calling you too frequently during the day. If they do, they’re a keeper.


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